What Causes Tossing and Turning at Night? – Sleep Disturbance in Couples

Sleeping with your partner can be great but the chances are you will have different sleep and wake patterns and that affects the quality of sleep and results in tossing and turning in bed. In addition, when you sleep with your partner, you share their sleep problems too.

Many problems can arise when one or both partners fall asleep.

Using Tech Devices in Bed

When one partner is asleep while the other one is using the phone or watching TV, the blue light emitted from the screens will affect the other party as our internal clock sense that we should be awake. Partners should discuss what the bedroom is used for and agree on a common bed time.


Another common issue is when one partner snores. About 37 million adults snore regularly, according to the National Sleep Foundation in the USA, resulting in poor sleep quality for their partner and themselves. As a result, the partner who is awake ends up tossing and turning in bed, attempting to fall asleep throughout the night. Making lifestyle changes such as losing weight or sleeping on your sides can help to reduce snoring. If the snoring continues, one can visit a sleep doctor to get this treated.

Going to Bed or Waking Up at Different Timing

Different sleep and wake patterns such as being a night owl (or an early bird) causes sleep disturbance as well. Either partner will get disturbed when one partner sleeps or wakes up earlier. For the night owl, make as little noise as possible and do your work outside the bedroom so as not to disturb your partner. Whereas for the early birds, turn off your alarm as soon as you wake up and leave the bedroom to prepare for the day.

Issues with Mattress

Other than issues from both partners, the mattress that you sleep on contributes greatly to sleep disturbance as well. If there isn’t enough space for both partners to move around, one’s movement is highly likely to affect the other. Get a mattress big enough for both of you. If budget and space allow, a King-size bed would be the most suitable. Otherwise, a Queen-size mattress will be the next best alternative. There should be sufficient space for both partners to move around without bumping into each other for a restful sleep. The bigger the bed, the less likely you will disturb your partner. A good mattress helps you sleep better thereby reducing tossing and turning which will affect your partner.

While mattress space is important for couples, it is also crucial to have a sleep system that is scientifically proven and rigorously tested in providing a good night’s sleep. Some causes for poor levels of sleep could be attributed to the following:

  • Morning back ache where poor skeletal alignment leads to muscular tension and a tired sore back
  • Tossing and turning in which pressure points causes poor blood flow and hence constant repositioning of the body
  • Poor product design such as substandard materials and construction which eventually leads to product failure, making it not value for money

A Sealy Posturepedic®, on the other hand, provides an orthopedically correct support, pressure relieving comfort as well as long lasting durability. So, how does this help couples?

When one partner sleeps deeper, they are less likely to be disturbed by their partner or anything else, hence reducing the number of times they toss and turn in bed. As a result, the other partner can now enjoy the value of deeper sleep as well. By actively solving the problems of sleep disturbance, we can increase sleep satisfaction for both partners. No sleep disturbance, no partner disturbance!

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